Hilary Duff’s Husband Calls Ashley Tisdale 'Self Obsessed' After 'Toxic Mom Group' Essay

Koma reacted to Tisdale's "Toxic Mom Group" essay by calling the actress "tone deaf."

(L) Hilary Duff and Matthew Koma stop by Apple Music Studios in LA for a live holiday Apple Music radio takeover on December 04, 2025 in Los Angeles, California. (R) US actress Ashley Tisdale attends the world premiere for the new season of Disney's "Phineas and Ferb" at nya Studios EAST in Los Angeles on May 31, 2025.
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Matthew Koma, the husband of actress and singer Hilary Duff, reacted to Ashley Tisdale's essay about their "toxic mom group" with shade.

Last week, the High School Musical star published an essay in The Cut about parting ways with a mom friend group in Hollywood, which included fellow stars Meghan Trainor, Mandy Moore, and Duff.

Tisdale claimed to have feelings of imposter syndrome among the women and alleged that the group had "mean girl" tendencies.

"I realized that there were group text chains that didn’t include everyone, which led to cliques forming within the larger group," Tisdale wrote. "And after the third or fourth time of seeing social media photos of everyone else at a hangout that I didn’t get invited to, it felt like I wasn’t really part of the group after all."

Days after the story went viral, Koma, who's been married to Duff since 2019, responded in an Instagram Story and imitated Tisdale's pose in her photo for the essay.

Koma's post included a mockup of The Cut story—with a rewritten headline.

"A Mom Group Tell All Through the Father's Eyes," Koma wrote.

"When You're the Most Self Obsessed Tone Deaf Person On Earth, Other Moms Tend to Shift Focus to Their Actual Toddlers," he continued.

Koma shares three daughters with Duff, while the former Lizzie McGuire star also has a teenage son with her first husband, Mike Comrie.

Tisdale's husband of 12 years, Christopher French, also appeared to react to his wife's mom group complaints, albeit defending her, as Life & Style pointed out.

"It’s your choice whether or not to engage," read a message French reposted in an Instagram Story following backlash to Tisdale's essay.

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